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Broomfield, Commerce City, Glendale, Englewood, Lakewood, Lafayette, Littleton, Longmont, Louisville, Northglen,
Sheridan, Thornton, Westminster, Wheat Ridge. We service the following Colorado counties: Adams Count, Arapahoe
County, Boulder County, Broomfield County, Douglas County, Jefferson County, Larimer County, and Weld County.
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Friendship is Key in Long Term Relationships
Only in the last century has it been necessary for couples to be everything to each other. In the past couples
lived in extended family settings. A young woman didn’t lose her mother when she married because she lived
in the same household or in the same neighborhood. Her mother, aunties and sisters all lived in the same
area, helping with the first baby or giving advice and support when marital problems arouse. This type of
support stabilized young marriages increasing the likelihood of success.
A young man was supported when assuming the difficult and pressurized role of husband and father. His
father, uncles, brothers and cousins were available to advise on marital life and help financially when young
couples faced difficult times. Young couples were able to observe successful couples and learn from that
observation. Friendships often began in infancy were a constant source of support and fun for the lifetime of
the individuals involved.
We now have a transient population in modern society. Very often couples are on their own during the times
when they need the most support. It is during these times that it is advantageous to draw on different aspects
of self in relationship to a partner.
Couples are often unprepared for the amount of stress caused by living with the same person for years at a
time. The same husband, wife or partner whose idiosyncrasies and peccadillos we found so charming and
novel, are just plain irritating and dare we say it, annoying after a few months or years residing in the same
space. Couples are often isolated from friends and family and find themselves angry and feeling resentful
toward each other due to the work load inherent in starting and maintaining a family. It is helpful for couples to
develop several enjoyable and helpful roles within their relationship.
Couples are often a tribe of two operating in isolation. When young couples come into my Denver office for sex
and couples therapy, I am always interested to see, not only how their sexual relationship is going, but how
strong their friendship is, as well. It is important to feel, at the very least, friendly toward someone you want to
have sex with.
If you have begun, due to parenting and financial stressors, to lose sight of who your partner is outside of their
role, it is time to work on and nurture the friendship necessary for any successful long term relationship.
The goal of having children is to successfully launch them into society when they become young adults. Many
couples allow their friendship to disintegrate, during their parenting years, neglecting their relationship,
allowing it to erode to the point that it is no longer viable when their children leave home. It is very important to
nourish and sustain your friendship throughout the life of your marriage. You can do this by spending time
without your children and doing activities you both enjoy. You can remember to tell your partner what they have
gotten right vs everything they are doing wrong. It is also very important to spend time away from your kids and
partner. In short establish and maintain a lifelong friendship with your significant other.
If you and your partner are disconnected and hurt by each other’s behavior and cant’ seem to resolve issues,
call and make an appointment to see me at Denver Sex Therapy. Let’s explore and create friendship and
shared meaning in your relationship.
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